Different Levels of Desire? Sexual Avoidance? Stress in Your Sex Life? Escape the traps that have kept you “bedroom burdened” and become an easily intimate couple.
Have you wondered why your sex life is the one area of your relationship that you can’t seem to fix?
Why is it that you can have such a hard time in the bedroom when the rest of your relationship works so well?
Has sex become stressful, disappointing, or anxiety provoking?
Do you feel guilty that you lack desire?
Do you feel lonely or rejected with the frequency of sex?
Do either of you avoid sex?
Are you baffled by how this aspect of your life can be so difficult when other things work fine?
HERE’S WHAT MOST “BEDROOM BURDENED” PEOPLE DO (and this may be you)
They believe something is fundamentally wrong with their relationship.
They believe there’s nothing they can do to improve their sex life.
They end up avoiding the issue…resigning to this for the rest of their life, questioning whether their relationship can survive this, or suffering through feelings of guilt, rejection, loneliness, frustration, and disconnection.
But here’s the thing:
YOU ARE NOT BROKEN; YOU ARE BURDENED.
What if there were a way out of the impasse? How much relief and happiness would you feel?
What if you could enjoy your sex life with zero stress?
What if you were able to reinvent your sex life in a way that made you both happy and engaged?
What if your sex life was an easy, great part of your relationship – so you could enjoy it and barely even think about it?
What if you became an EASILY INTIMATE COUPLE?
HERE’S WHY COUPLES END UP BEDROOM BURDENED
Without a clear process to uncover the expectations that have you stuck, to reframe how you think about sex, and to practice the fundamental shifts in mindset and behavior that you need, most couples end up more polarized about their sex life, with one person feeling more urgency and one feeling more pressure.
They fall into the trap of feeling like they have different goals and different priorities, with no clear way to work together and no sense that anything can change for the better.
HERE’S WHY THIS IS CRIPPLING
As you try to make your sex life better and hit these dead ends, you feel less and less like a team. Even when you’re great together in so many areas of your life, you start to feel distance between you in the area of intimacy.
Over time, you can start to feel hopeless that your sex life could be easy and enjoyable for both of you. You resign yourself to a reality where you’re not having as much sex as you’d like, you’re having sex you don’t want, or at least one of you is avoiding sex whenever you can. Sex starts to feel like the weight dragging the rest of your relationship down, and it’s harder and harder to relax and feel good about each other and your shared life.
Pillar #1 DISCOVER
We have to start by understanding exactly why you’re stuck and what’s complicating your sex life. Then, we have to replace unrealistic expectations and misinformation with a new understanding of sex and sexual desire so that you are set up to succeed.
But just because you have this new paradigm doesn’t mean your partner is on the same page. You have to learn how to approach and align with them to really make a change in your sex life.
Pillar #2 ALIGN
It’s crucial that you approach your partner as an ally, committed to creating a sex life that is easy and fun for both of you. This pillar is all about how to communicate effectively and what kind of expectations you should have of yourself (and your partner). You also get to focus on individual accountability – so important in making any change – by unpacking what you bring to the problems and identify what you need to work on. Your partner can do this, too.
But just because you’re committed to a win/win and are set up to work as a team doesn’t mean you can make any changes. You have to know what to DO to make things better.
Pillar #3 PRACTICE
Change doesn’t happen just because we have understanding. We have to learn to behave differently. But we also need a plan for exactly what to do to make the changes we want to see. We need to know what we’re practicing and how to most effectively do it.
But practice and experience won’t get you the kind of transformation you want unless you are able learn from your experiences. It’s crucial to integrate this new way of being.
Pillar #4 ENJOY
To make this process work – and stick – we need to learn from what we’re doing. We need to use our experiences to guide progress and maintain it, creating permanent change in our ability to enjoy our sex life with our partner. Without this, we backslide. If you’ve ever worked on your sex life before but were unable to keep it up, this is what you’ve been missing.
This part of the method is all reaching actual breakthroughs that will make permanent change.
YOU NEED ALL FOUR PILLARS TO SUCCEED. YOU GET:
DISCOVER A NEW PARADIGM – RELIEF & HOPE:
Understanding why you’re stuck (and that it’s totally normal) and building a new mindset around sex gives you the hope that things can be different. BUT you still need to apply it to your relationship so that you can get on the same page with your partner.
ALIGN WITH YOUR PARTNER: CONNECTION
Being a good partner and committing to a sex life that works for both of you creates connection and alliance. BUT you still need to know what to do with this information to actually make change in your sex life.
PUT IT INTO PRACTICE: ACTION PLAN
Having a roadmap about exactly what to do to practice all these new ways of thinking (and behaving) gives you a clear action plan. BUT you still need a way to learn from your experiences to create permanent change in your sex life. so you won’t just revert to the way it was.
ENJOY LONG-LASTING CHANGE: DESIRE
When you change your mindset, get on the same page as your partner to create a sex life that truly works for both of you, follow an action plan to put these ideas into practice, and integrate all of this into new habits and ways of being, you get to enjoy your sex life without having to think about it!
Introducing Intimacy With Ease™
I’ve taken everything I’ve learned as an AASECT certified sex therapist and the experiences I’ve had working with hundreds and hundreds of couples over the years to craft a program to help you transform your sex life into something you both look forward to.
Intimacy With Ease is not just a description of the problem and what’s got you stuck; it’s an implementation program that walks you through a process where you can change your experience.
The end result: ease and joy in your sex life that will help you adapt to any challenges you face now or in the future.
Intimacy With Ease Online Course for Couples
SECTION ONE: DISCOVER
Module One: Understanding the Problem
The first step is to understand that you are not broken, that your struggles are common and normal. This is crucial to create both relief and hope for the process ahead.
Video 1: Understanding How You Got Here
Video 2: How to Identify Specific Factors That Make Your Sex Life Even More Difficult
Video Three: Understanding the Expectations That Set You Up to Fail
Video Four: Your Action Steps
Module Two: Changing Your Mindset
This lays the powerful foundation for your new sex life – understanding what sex is, how it works, and the nature of sexual desire. What you learn here frees you from any feelings of failure.
Video 1: Defining Sex for Success
Video 2: Navigating Differences in Desire Seamlessly
Video Three: The Key to Understanding Sexual Desire
Video Four: Your Action Steps
SECTION TWO: ALIGN
Module Three: Work as a Team
Aligning with your partner involves working well as a team, knowing how to communicate effectively, and sharing the same perspective on relationship skills. This module will teach you exactly that.
Video 1: How to Operate as the Best Team
Video 2: The Communication Power Tools that Avert Conflict
Module Four: Your Side of the Court
While you’ll work with your partner in this process, the only thing you can change is yourself. This module helps you identify what you’re bringing to the table and what you’ll want to focus on moving forward.
Video 1: Examine Your Family Background and Release What Doesn’t Serve You
Video 2: Learn How Your Relationship and Sexual History Relates to Your Path Forward
Video 3: Discover Your Unique Dance Around Sex so You Can Change Your Steps
Video 4: Getting Clear on Exactly What You Want to Change
Video 5: Your Action Steps
SECTION THREE: PRACTICE
Module Five: Your Tool for Change
We can’t make change with insight alone; we have to learn to behave and think differently. This is the powerful part of the program where you put all these ideas into action.
Video 1: Removing and Mitigating the Obstacles You Face
Video 2: Using an Exercise to Create Exactly the Change You Want to See
Video 3: The Eight Things to Practice That Will Transform Your Sex Life
Video 4: Your Action Steps
SECTION FOUR: ENJOY
Module Six: Keep Your Progress Going
This is where it all comes together, where you fully integrate everything you’ve learned. You will discover how to take what happens for you and use it to continue to make progress, creating true transformation.
Video 1: Using the Exercise for Growth
Video 2: How to Get to Breakthroughs
Video 3: Another Way to Approach the Exercise for More Change
Video 4: Exploring Eroticism to Up the Interest
Video 5: Your Action Steps
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